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Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson explores the psychological mechanisms behind self-justification and cognitive dissonance, explaining why individuals and groups often deny or rationalize their mistakes. Using anecdotal, historical, and scientific evidence, the authors argue that admitting errors is crucial for personal and social growth, as covering them up only worsens the situation. The book delves into the brain's role in self-deception and stresses the importance of facing mistakes to prevent a harmful realignment of morals and principles. The authors include examples from various cultures and emphasize how different educational approaches can impact the perception and handling of errors. The book contains discussions of psychological trauma and the infliction of pain.