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In Mindwise, Nicholas Epley explores the complex gap between perceived and intended meaning in social relationships, arguing against mainstream social psychology methods such as empathy and expression analysis. He demonstrates that humans often have limited and inaccurate insights into how others perceive them, noting the biological and social impasse in understanding our own internal lives and the social messages we exchange. Epley asserts that rather than revealing inner content, social expressions often negotiate compliance for self-interest, and he challenges the belief in self-insight, suggesting that unconsciously driven processes dominate our actions. The book encourages adopting an open-minded approach to understanding human consciousness and behavior, emphasizing the importance of positive relationships for happiness and well-being.