It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

Ramani Durvasula is a clinical psychologist whose work on narcissistic abuse and high-conflict personalities has positioned her as a pivotal figure in the realms of psychology and self-help literature. Durvasula serves as professor emerita of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and maintains a private practice in Los Angeles. She elucidates narcissism to a broader audience through various platforms including television, online videos, and a podcast.

Educationally, Durvasula’s journey began with a BS in psychology from the University of Connecticut, followed by an MA and a PhD in clinical psychology from UCLA. She has been recognized for her service to students and her instructional methods at Cal State LA, where she has held several leadership roles in psychological education and curriculum development.

In her consultative roles, Durvasula addresses the impacts of personality disorders on interpersonal relationships and mental health. Her books, including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist (2015) and Don’t You Know Who I Am?: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility (2019), examine how to understand and manage relationships affected by narcissism. These works provide a theoretical framework and practical strategies for dealing with narcissistic individuals.