It Starts with Us

1. General Impressions

Gather initial thoughts and broad opinions about the book.

• Overall, what were your impressions of the book and its depiction of co-parenting with a volatile ex-partner?
• What did you enjoy most about the character of Lily Bloom? What aspects or traits did you enjoy least?
• Compare this book to the prequel, It Ends With Us. Do you find the narrative arc between the novels effective?

2. Personal Reflection and Connection

Encourage readers to connect the book’s themes and characters with their personal experiences.

• The interactions between Lily and Ryle are often emotionally charged as he experiences feelings of intense anger. How did these scenes make you feel?
• Can you envision yourself co-parenting with an ex-partner who was abusive? Lily sets boundaries; what would your boundaries be?
• Is the relationship between Lily and Atlas the ideal romantic relationship? If so, what qualities make it so effective? From your perspective, what, if anything, is it lacking?
• Do you have a passion or career goal similar to Lily’s? If so, what feelings of fulfillment does it bring you? If not, craft your ideal career and discuss why it matters to you. 
• One of the book’s major themes is healing.