I'll Have What She's Having

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Handler recalls the time she ended up eating dinner with Woody Allen and Soon-Yi Previn in New York. She remained composed throughout the dinner, refusing to lose her temper. At the meal’s end, she jokingly asked Woody Allen how he and Soon-Yi met. In retrospect, she’s glad she didn’t make a scene but proud for standing up for what she believes.

Handler recounts the time she had a frustrating encounter with a man on the street. She drove back to her nail salon to collect something she’d forgotten. A man yelled at her for not feeding the meter. Because he seemed generally nice, she calmly told him she’d done so intentionally. The man got upset and called her sexist. Handler saw this as a teaching moment and explained why women were frustrated with micro-aggressions like this one.

Handler reflects on the incident. Some people think she’s “wasting [her] time with conversations like this” but she’s glad she confronted this man (234). She believes thoughtful interactions like this can make a change.